Menu button Highlight

Can't seem to figure out how to control colors for "hover" ,
"active" and "activated" on buttons. I created menu PS first
then imported as menu and converted buttons. But Edit Menu Colors seems to have
no affect. And my DVDs are coming out with no way to "see" the
navigation that is happening when remote is used the select item.

I know this is proable pretty basic But I'm stumped.

Thanks